Some Observations About People

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They're not all normal | The older I get, the more people I encounter that just baffle me.  I consider myself pretty 'normal' so when I meet somebody who acts and thinks so differently to me, it's a little reminder that we're not all the same. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but I'm sure you all know the type.  The high-strung, neurotic, illogical kinda people.....yeah, those ones.

Some just love to be negative | Ahhh, those 'rain on my parade' type people.  The ones who never have a solution, only problems, and love to be angry at the world.  I'm an emotional sponge so really try not to invest too much time in these people.  If they want to be on a self-destructive downer I say go for it, just remember that you're probably too fab for their negativity.

The persona they project isn't always their true self | I can't help but compare myself to others, so when I see somebody with their shizz together by default I'm always gonna feel bad.  But comparison is the thief of joy (so I'm told) and in reality you'll never know what's going on behind the scenes.  I often find that people over-compensate and highlight a certain side of themselves to mask another.  Never feel bad about not matching up to what someone else has.

You can't make someone be who you want them to be | We all have different agendas and different motivations, so it's not fair to try and shape somebody to fit with your ideals.  I'd love it if Nick were able to get out of bed a little a lot earlier at the weekends, and take much quicker showers.  6 years down the line, it hasn't happened, and the aggro and stress it's caused me just isn't worth it.  Focus on what's good about a person instead of wishing you could change them. 

It's ok to cut toxic people out | Ok, so this one sounds slightly cutthroat....but if something's not good for you, you cut it out, right?  You're allergic to dairy?  You don't eat dairy.  White bread makes you bloat?  Switch to wholemeal.  If a person is a negative influence on your life and doesn't bring you joy anymore, it's time to think about whether that's an energy you still want around.

They won't all like you | For a people-pleaser like me, this realisation can be a hard pill to swallow.  But as I've got older and more comfortable in my own skin, I care less.  You're never going to be everyone's cup of tea, but I figure that if you know deep down you're a good person and there's nothing you can do about the situation, then you have to let sleeping dogs lie.

Some are good for your spirit | Shall we end on a high point?  There are some people who are good for you.  Calming influences, mutually beneficial friendships that work, are easy, and bring out the best in you.  When it comes down to it, these are the people that matter and these are the ones you should hang on to.  Awwwwww.


Video: April Book Haul

We all love a haul video, right?  And being a huge bookworm, I thought I'd fuse the two together and film a book haul.  It would seem that this month I went a little crazy with the book buying, but I can't help it!  For me, it's the ultimate guilt-free shopping.

Watch it below, or click here to watch it over on my YouTube channel.  And tell me, which book should I buy next?!


Read // 7

The Girl on the Train // Paula Hawkins
This book has three female narrators, and I love the way it was written through the 'main' character's eyes every day on her train journey in and out of London.  Interesting features like that are just guaranteed to get me hooked.  Rachel has created a synopsis in her head for the lives of a couple (Jess and Jason) she sees into the back garden of everyday on her commute, so when one day she sees Jess kissing another man and then later discovers that Jess has gone missing, Rachel becomes tangled up in their real lives. This was a crime/mystery/thriller book, which was an enjoyable, easy read which was well-written.  Some things to note though: (1) I've never read a book where the main character is so repugnant, and (2) there are far better books in this genre out there.  I felt like it had a really good, suspenseful build up although by the time the dramatic reveal came about I wasn't surprised, and I found the ending, dare I say it, unbelievable.  A good story though, and one I'd recommend if you want to start getting into crime novels.
Rating: 3/5

Bitter Greens // Kate Forsyth
After falling in love with The Wild Girl, I was eager to read another of Kate Forsyth's books.  Bitter Greens has three intertwined narratives and retells the story of Rapunzel within a historical fiction novel featuring of Charlotte Rose de Caumont la Force, banished from French court and sent to a nunnery, alongside the fictional courtesan and sorceress Selena Lionelli who has a fear of time.  It was slower to get into than Wild Girl, but I devoured this book within a day.  I liked Charlotte's first-person narrative the least, but all three characters' stories were well-rounded and enjoyable.  I doubt that any description I give here will capture the story and do it justice, but what I will say is that Forsyth is an incredibly talented writer who deserves more of the spotlight.  A must-read.
Rating: 5/5

The Lottery // Shirley Jackson
I was after a few shorter books to use as lighter material in between reading, but didn't expect this to be so short!  Literally, 12 pages long and I'm not sure whether I can justifiably feature it here.  But I have read it, so wanted to share my thoughts with you all.  It was more of a classic 'short story' than I anticipated, and the sort of thing I would have read in school.  The Lottery is a Hunger Games-type affair that takes place in a village, but I have to admit that after reading it I still know little more than that.  I guess that's the nature of a short story, leaving your mind to fill in the blanks, but I think I need things spelling out to me!  I felt like this didn't really get going, and cut off when it should have been developed more.  There was a lot packed into the 12 pages though, and it was an interesting concept.
Rating: 1/5

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (and other concerns) // Mindy Kaling
Let me start by saying I love Mindy Kaling.....but I didn't love this book!  I could really hear Mindy's voice when I read it (which is a great thing), but I felt it was disjointed and didn't really flow.  I'd find myself finishing a section and just feeling confused....where did that fit in, and what was the point?  It was interesting finding out the background to how Mindy rose to fame, but there were a lot of *funny* lists that I ended up skim reading.  Perhaps I was expecting too much; I didn't want a full-on autobiography, but I wanted something with a bit of meat to it.  And on a purely aesthetic note, the book has a beautiful cover, scratchy old-school pages and tiny black and white grainy photos.  And I mean tiny.  It could have been executed so much better.
Rating: 2.5/5